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Sexual shopping list 10
posted Thursday, 31 July 2008
Mamasan
I've noticed in my own behavior, that talking about sex is something that I do with friends more than potential lovers. It's rather annoying to me when someone who doesn't know me like that, starts with his shopping list of sexual fantasies, hoping that I'll oblige. Since that's most of what strangers want to talk about as far as sex, I get bored with the conversation, and find something else to do.
Even with potential or actual lovers, handing me the shopping list is the best way to get rid of me. It's like a script, and it ruins the spontenaeity.
A general idea of what turns someone on is good. That, I like to know...what someone's fetishes are, their hard limits, soft limits, etc. This is useful information. What I don't like is being interviewed for a circus performance. This is the department of escorts, not lovers. If you have a script, take that to an actor.
Some women do better with more vulgar sex talk, but I like it more subtle and/or educationally toned, until we actually get to the bedroom (or dungeon or wherever).
As far as women going for the guy who only wants sex, well...Smart women go for men who only want sex on purpose, when they themselves only want sex. Sometimes we just need a good shag, and we don't particularly care much if we see the guy again, even if we kinda hope we do. We're not really pursuing a commitment with that person at that moment.
Although there is more of a social stigma about a woman being non committal. women generally recognize a male slut too, and we even speak of them in a similar way. The more open minded of us don't hold it against a guy too much as long as he's not being deceptive. I myself referred one of my bitches to another, because he wanted, or maybe needed experiences that I couldn't provide in good conscience and safety.
There really isn't such a thing as sex just for sex...and where most men might think that all they want is sex, that's not really all they want, or else they would be happy to just masturbate until they wanted a commitment. It wouldn't make a difference if the sex was with their hand or with another person.
What drives them out there to get sex from other people is the ego boost. They want to feel wanted...to feel worthy. A woman who understands this has a much easier time getting what she needs, and preventing someone from ego mooching her unawares.
Sex with guys who "only want sex" is a lot more satisfying, even if you find out that was their intention only after the fact, when you're knuckles deep, smiling, and telling them to "Take it, bitch!"
Get yours, and they'll get theirs, and everybody's happy, and nobody's feeling used. :-)
I've noticed in my own behavior, that talking about sex is something that I do with friends more than potential lovers. It's rather annoying to me when someone who doesn't know me like that, starts with his shopping list of sexual fantasies, hoping that I'll oblige. Since that's most of what strangers want to talk about as far as sex, I get bored with the conversation, and find something else to do.
Even with potential or actual lovers, handing me the shopping list is the best way to get rid of me. It's like a script, and it ruins the spontenaeity.
A general idea of what turns someone on is good. That, I like to know...what someone's fetishes are, their hard limits, soft limits, etc. This is useful information. What I don't like is being interviewed for a circus performance. This is the department of escorts, not lovers. If you have a script, take that to an actor.
Some women do better with more vulgar sex talk, but I like it more subtle and/or educationally toned, until we actually get to the bedroom (or dungeon or wherever).
As far as women going for the guy who only wants sex, well...Smart women go for men who only want sex on purpose, when they themselves only want sex. Sometimes we just need a good shag, and we don't particularly care much if we see the guy again, even if we kinda hope we do. We're not really pursuing a commitment with that person at that moment.
Although there is more of a social stigma about a woman being non committal. women generally recognize a male slut too, and we even speak of them in a similar way. The more open minded of us don't hold it against a guy too much as long as he's not being deceptive. I myself referred one of my bitches to another, because he wanted, or maybe needed experiences that I couldn't provide in good conscience and safety.
There really isn't such a thing as sex just for sex...and where most men might think that all they want is sex, that's not really all they want, or else they would be happy to just masturbate until they wanted a commitment. It wouldn't make a difference if the sex was with their hand or with another person.
What drives them out there to get sex from other people is the ego boost. They want to feel wanted...to feel worthy. A woman who understands this has a much easier time getting what she needs, and preventing someone from ego mooching her unawares.
Sex with guys who "only want sex" is a lot more satisfying, even if you find out that was their intention only after the fact, when you're knuckles deep, smiling, and telling them to "Take it, bitch!"
Get yours, and they'll get theirs, and everybody's happy, and nobody's feeling used. :-)
